靜聽松風
aging
In some cultures, aging is viewed a stage in life best for relaxing at home doing nothing. Those who are still working draw pitiful eyes, as if they are losers who have no financial backing or filial kids to take care of them.
I think it can’t be farther from truth. Barring from those still toiling in hard manual labor, we do see many retirees working as consultants in their previous industries with the younger generation, or finding a 2nd career where their real interest can bloom and shine. Many medical professionals around the world have indicated that meaningful work is beneficial to both our physical and mental health as we age.
I wonder when the stigma of “pitiful working elders” will disappear.
見山是山
二元化的思考,只會令我們對一件事、一個人動情時,就自動妖魔化另外一件事。事情的好壞,的確是相對的。但也不用為了拼命幫A貼金,而將所有非A的往死裏打。尤其是,非A之中還有一部分是自己立命之本。貶低它們並不會立即顯得自己變得多麼高尚,反而更像天人交戰中的苦苦自辯。
這令我想起「見山是山、見山不是山、見山還是山」的三階段。走了一圈回來,才真的懂得怎樣擺正一件事情。
十三邀
近來有幸碰到許知遠先生一系列的訪談實錄「十三邀」。每輯他都邀請某一個領域(如學術、演藝、思想、商業等等)的專業人士,𣈱談他們如何入行、該領域的主要問題和發展、以及他們對現代社會的看法。
許先生認為訪問就像彫刻。人物的立體性、他潛藏的知識點,都需要訪問者細心發掘出來。
我們一般人,除了自己的專業和一兩件可以放上枱面的愛好,對於世界時空之廣博、人性之幽深,實在所知甚微。唯有多看、多聽、多問、多想才能略懂一二。讀書令人常保謙卑、敬畏之心。讀書真好!
尺度
這個年代意見變得很廉價。無論是KOL還是學富五車的專家,都是咫尺天涯,一個prompt就送到府上。至於去到哪個終點,就真是每個人的造化了。魑魅橫行之代,還是想起有原葉子先生和中野社長的話:每天要鍛鍊自己心中那把尺。
v1 speed
In aviation, V1 speed is defined as the “point of no return” where a pilot has to continue the takeoff and deal with any issue after.
I think it parallels extremely intense emotions. Before that, sane advice might still reach the heart and we can still resort to reasoning. After a certain threshold, a thick deep cloud engulfs the person affected. Regardless of how good our intention is, sometimes the only feasible way is to let it run its course.
It can be very disheartening to see someone on the verge of breakdown, just like tiptoeing at the edge of a cliff. Yet certain emotions, once crossed over V1, are like a fiery blaze fueled by all sorts of forces that we are no match of. The threats to burn down everyone in its course is real. In this case, perhaps all we can do is to set clear boundaries to contain the blaze, and let it burn out within a specific area. Hopefully, when the smother is over, there’s something spared for us to begin healing with.
功課
以前讀過一本書,作者認為每個人生來都有他自己的人生功課。你不能幫別人做功課,更不能搶了別人的功課來做。
每個人都有自己的步伐,在不同時刻看到的風景都不一樣。有時心痛別人正在經歷的苦難。但路是別人的,如何走下去的也是他的選擇。旁人萬般不捨也無可奈何。
以前也聽過: 聰明的人從別人的經驗學習。看來我們大部份人都不聰明,總要自己親自跌得粉身碎骨才學懂一些道理。
小確幸
生活中的小確幸無處不在。早上修剪好花園的植物、寫好文章、計劃好小旅行、和家人聊聊天、看了本好書、談了一下職涯規劃、吃了一小塊甜品、晚上散步看見一彎新月如鈎……
以前追求乘風破浪,現在才剛剛開始學會欣賞「也無風雨也無晴」的珍貴。
創作的火
台灣剪紙藝術家楊士毅在他的自傳剖白了他如何從一直沉浸在過去的苦難來創作,到現在只創作令人幸福的作品。
讀了,感同身受。
以前,總以為自己吃苦的經歷,可以作為藝術創作的薪火。
掏心掏肺地把自己所思所想毫無保留地拿出來。殊不知,這把火連自己也燒燼了。
後來,醒來了。明白這種火不長久,也傷身。
以苦為樂
以前,我會覺得欣賞有深度的電影和音樂才算是享受。而這些享受通常很燒腦、很苦澀。
後來,大病一場。明白人生已經夠苦,不用再向外望了。
intersection
一剎那的交集,我們就以為這就是全世界。
後來,我們長大了,才知道世界很大,我們能感知到的,很小。